Effective Counselling in Sussex | Relationship Course

Introduction

As a practitioner with over 40 years personal experience, i have been called upon to deal with many many relationship difficulties and upsets. Consequently, I have devoted a great deal of my time to looking at the quality of the communication, the behaviours, the patterns (individual and joint) and the interactions of the couples involved.

As a result I have been able to isolate most of the key behaviour patterns common to failing relationships and as importantly, those common to thriving ones.

The elimination of these negative patterns little by little, and the replacing of them with positive communication and behaviour patterns by both parties, working for the same agenda, can have an immediate and spectacularly beneficial effect on both parties, the relationship between them, and the stress levels of the immediate close family and children involved.

Having been using and developing this material in my practice for some years with couples, I can now offer it in the form of a short course of up to 4 weeks duration, consisting of 3 meetings with the couple involved, and observational homework to confirm what has been learned.

Benefits of Effective Marriage Counselling over Other Forms of Relationship Therapy

Couples will gain a precise understanding of the underlying reasons for their difficulties.
Couples will be offered step by step help and guidance in dealing with these underlying reasons
Couples will be encouraged to observe the universal nature of the solutions offered, by looking outside their own specific relationship, at the relationships of others in life, on TV, on film etc., in order to recognise the validity of the material.
In other forms of relationship therapy, it is easy for the practitioner to fall into the trap of favouring one party over the other. Because of the nature of Effective Marriage Counselling, this pressure is avoided.
Because the Effective Marriage Counselling Course concerns itself directly with the actual causes of relationship dysfunction and its resolution, the couple will gradually recognise how each influences the behaviour of the other, and in consequence how each has much more power over the quality, good and bad, of the relationship than he or she ever believed.
The effective marriage counselling course offers a new and much improved gradient approach to marriage counselling; avoiding the pitfalls of older methods, and directly addressing the actual source of the problem as opposed to the symptoms.
All information given on the course is in clear, plain English – no jargon, no psychobabble!

Some couples will have experienced damage from the other to the degree that they need individual sessions. This can also be delivered, separate to the course.

Finally, we will give a full refund of the fee paid for this Effective Marriage Counselling Course to anyone who is not satisfied that it represents a definitive understanding of the structure of relationships.

The cost of the course is £250 payable via PayPal or cheque.

We are in the process of designing an online enrolment scheme, however can enrol on the course by contacting us. Feel free to get in touch if you have any questions.

Please read the article below on Marriage Counselling at Effective Counselling for more information about what might be covered on the course:

Most standard approaches to marriage counselling require that the couple come together to discuss, in each joint sessions with the practitioner, one or more of the highly emotive and contentious issues which are dividing the couple and disrupting their lives.

This policy alone can account for a large proportion of couples who drop out after the first one or two sessions. The reason for this is very simply that one of the most effective and usual ways of avoiding one's own guilt is to blame someone else – in this case the other partner. The very last thing the person wants is to feel his or her defence under attack at the first meeting! Also, one risks the couple continuing the discussion on the way home – which can drift into the usual pattern of confrontation and argument with all its attendant upset and distress. This can give a distorted and negative view of the whole process of therapy in general and the therapist in particular.

At Effective Marriage Counselling we seek to begin restoring the quality of the communication before any issues are discussed at all. The rationale here is issues come and go in a relationship, but the quality of the communication defines the relationship and is therefore, in a hierarchy of importance, almost at the very top. In fact, from the practitioner’s point of view and for all practical purposes it is at the very top.

Thus one begins to see that many of the issues complained about at the outset of marriage counselling derive from the poor state of communication and general interaction of the couple. When this is addressed by the practitioner, the benefits are immediate and directly proportional to the degree of adoption by both parties.

This is a relationship of two parties, and the quality of that relationship is created by both parties acting and reacting with and against each other from the beginning. As the quality of the interaction changes so too does the quality of the relationship.